Playing with kids has its own advantages but this can not be done all day long. Mom's need to multitask many things, be it cooking, cleaning or never ending laundry work. Juggling between so many things at home hardly gives them any time for relaxation.
If mom is working from home it becomes even more difficult to manage kids along with their work. How much she wishes to get 1 hour of ‘Self’ time. She craves that extra time to do some quality work or enjoy an uninterrupted newspaper read or indulge in any adult conversation.
In between all this long list of never ending work you keep hearing “Can you play with me”? Its definitely not easy to say no to your child all the time but at times such situation arises when you just cant give your time. In such scenario, you do wish the child learns to play independently, at least for some time.
The toddlers/preschoolers who have not yet started school or on weekends or after school hours demand most attention. They become clingy and it becomes next to impossible to do anything at all. Allowing kids to play independently, will not only help mom's, it would help the kids the most. It helps them to become independent, creative and confident.
There are times when parents/caretaker are busy and they are not able to provide their company nor able to arrange any play dates with other kids. In such a scenario, kids should learn to be self dependent and not depend on any one else.It will also help kids in long run when they become adults. They will be happy and learn to accept whether they're in small groups, large crowds or alone.
When they play alone they think explore and act and take their own decisions. This helps them in problem solving and decision making skills.
Here we have listed some tips to help kids play individually :
Creating Play friendly environment
Creating a child friendly, secure place for your child. Depending on space availability in house a complete room or small corner of house or on their crib. Creating such specialised areas will give them feeling of belonging to this place. They would understand it’s a special space created for them, they need to play and have fun here. A beautiful, well designed and colourful space will attract them and they would want to spend more and more time there.
To start with, give them your physical presence and let them play on their own. Once they get engrossed in their play you can do your other work. It could be checking and replying to your office mail or reading a book or a fun chat with friends. Let them play on their own and you can keep an eye on them while doing your work.
Help them learn how to build with lego block or demonstrate how to play with their kitchen set. Once they know how to play, they can actively play for hours.
Arrange play dates with their friends
Kids learn best from other kids. Arrange more and more get together/play date for kids.They would learn the best use of toys. Sharing with friends initially and later discovering the use of toys themselves will create good interest.